counterintuitive

just had a good chat with a trusted and respected friend.... and was thinking of the advice given...

usually before i make any decision, i will seek views of a wide spectrum : students, lecturers, people who are specialists in particular fields, depending on the issue, to get a feel and to see things from different perspectives.

but there arent many that i really 'listen' to. I am thankful that if I really want to count, I think I have quite a few that are really friends, that sincerely seek my good, and will help if I ask. But I very rarely ask.

However, to 'listen', that is, to really seriously consider and weigh, to heed advice, I can only think of two at the moment. I was wondering why.....perhaps...

First of all, values. Common ground. Secondly, there is mutual respect. Thirdly, they are people that will objectively weigh the circumstance, and not react to happenings. Rational but not insensitive. Whilst listening (really listening) and understanding how I feel, they will still advise according to what they consider is best. Not what they know I want to hear. And always with reason. Then, there is strength of character, people who have lived life and stand by principles; and not material oriented. Finally, there is an inexplicable affinity...patience? kindness?

....and when both give the same counsel .... with good grounds .....and their overarching concern is for my welfare .....it is folly not to heed. So for now, intuition has to be suppressed.... at least for the foreseeable short term. ...Sigh..... there is a strong impulsive streak in me, thats why I need and value counsel.

Liberty without any reins is folly. Counsel is the kindest rein that one can imposed on oneself.

and well..... sometimes time unfolds in ways unexpected ..... so just bite the bullet .....sigh... very counterintuitive....

But on the bright side... many thanks, friend.